Rachel Mead
New York City Native
Daughter of Violet and Gabe
Posts: 231
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Post by Rachel Mead on May 4, 2017 10:37:08 GMT -5
rachel.is.made: hey Jamie
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Post by Jamie Kostka on May 4, 2017 14:25:04 GMT -5
jk...ostka: hey Rach
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Rachel Mead
New York City Native
Daughter of Violet and Gabe
Posts: 231
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Post by Rachel Mead on May 4, 2017 14:29:33 GMT -5
rachel.is.made: so... I did a bit of thinking
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Post by Jamie Kostka on May 4, 2017 14:37:57 GMT -5
jk...ostka: okay?
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Rachel Mead
New York City Native
Daughter of Violet and Gabe
Posts: 231
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Post by Rachel Mead on May 4, 2017 15:03:16 GMT -5
rachel.is.made: I'm still like... there's still some things I don't know rachel.is.made: like, obviously I love you, you're my best friend, but that just makes it hard to see if like, do I want to give this a go because I'm actually into you, or because of the history we already have, cause like, I guess either way there's no saying where things could go, but I feel like the latter makes it more risky rachel.is.made: but kissing you was like... really nice, it was pretty awesome actually, and there's already a bond there and on top of it there's physical attraction and all, it's like, it seems a bit crazy to think we couldn't work out together rachel.is.made: but then... I still really like Felix, like... on the aspect of dating, I'm sorry, I can't say I like you more for that than him. I care about you more because you matter so much to me, but as a boyfriend, nobody has a leg up rachel.is.made: and it's like, you're both such different people that it's kinda impossible to compare what a relationship would be with you versus him, and I don't want to not give us a chance, but then, I don't want to necessarily end what I have with him because you just happened to be in my life first, you know rachel.is.made: so, I actually asked my dad for advice, and he kinda presented this alternative... that I maybe, possibly, wouldn't have to choose...
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Post by Jamie Kostka on May 4, 2017 15:06:21 GMT -5
jk...ostka: I'm a little confused about what you're saying jk...ostka: you wouldn't have to choose? what does that mean exactly?
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Rachel Mead
New York City Native
Daughter of Violet and Gabe
Posts: 231
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Post by Rachel Mead on May 4, 2017 15:27:22 GMT -5
rachel.is.made: okay, sorry, I just spent like, a ridiculous amount of hours looking this stuff up online and probably didn't get as much sleep as I should have rachel.is.made: have you ever heard of polyamory?
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Post by Jamie Kostka on May 4, 2017 16:27:08 GMT -5
jk...ostka: I think so but I don't have much knowledge
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Rachel Mead
New York City Native
Daughter of Violet and Gabe
Posts: 231
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Post by Rachel Mead on May 4, 2017 20:02:45 GMT -5
rachel.is.made: well, I've looked it up a lot but I still don't know that I'd be the best person at properly explaining it rachel.is.made: I'd say read the wikipedia page and get back to me on it
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Post by Jamie Kostka on May 4, 2017 20:40:26 GMT -5
jk...osta: okay I'll do that jk...osta: would it be okay if I didn't date other people?
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Rachel Mead
New York City Native
Daughter of Violet and Gabe
Posts: 231
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Post by Rachel Mead on May 5, 2017 7:37:24 GMT -5
rachel.is.made: yeah of course rachel.is.made: it's not a free for all, it's just like... rachel.is.made: there's a lot of different types of polyamorous relationships rachel.is.made: sometimes there's two people together and one of those people is dating someone else, and sometimes both people are dating someone else, sometimes it's like... one big relationship with all people involved rachel.is.made: you don't have to date other people, you just... have to be comfortable with me doing that rachel.is.made: like, right now it's Felix, but there's no saying that's gonna last, so if we last but Felix and me don't, there could still be a time in the future where I'd be interested in someone new and you'd have to be okay with that rachel.is.made: and obviously I don't want you to say yes right away just cause you have, you know, feelings for me, I want you to think it through
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Post by Jamie Kostka on May 5, 2017 12:00:08 GMT -5
jk...osta: I'm pretty sure I already know that I'm going to be okay with it jk...osta: our relationship would be just the same as if you weren't dating someone else, wouldn't it?
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Rachel Mead
New York City Native
Daughter of Violet and Gabe
Posts: 231
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Post by Rachel Mead on May 5, 2017 13:50:46 GMT -5
rachel.is.made: yeah, in all essentials rachel.is.made: I mean... I'm not really sure myself how to do this, you know, so I'm gonna try my best rachel.is.made: but maybe at first I'm gonna have issues dividing my time correctly, but then you just gotta call me out on it rachel.is.made: though with you being here and him in KC, it's like... more about keeping in touch while I'm away, which usually works pretty well. I guess it's more in terms of if you were to visit me at school, or if he were to visit me at home and stuff
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Post by Jamie Kostka on May 5, 2017 18:02:56 GMT -5
jk...ostka: I can do that jk...ostka: I want to make this work, so I'm willing to figure it out with you
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Rachel Mead
New York City Native
Daughter of Violet and Gabe
Posts: 231
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Post by Rachel Mead on May 5, 2017 18:04:05 GMT -5
rachel.is.made: are you sure?
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